Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives

Date Thu, June 17 2010

Let me start by saying I didn’t know much about Dr. Laura Schlessinger before I picked up this book but the title sure grabbed my attention. I know it’s not her first self-help book but I was not familiar with her radio program or beliefs before I dove in. It doesn’t take long for the reader to become acquainted with Laura’s approach or beliefs, however.

Laura approaches the book as though she’s on her radio show. It’s casual, conversational and involves enough slang to make anyone who appreciate the English language want to use the book as a weapon. Laura also has strong moral beliefs (despite those nude photos of her on the internet) and this comes through strong in her writing.

Ten Stupid Things.. is actually a book she wrote in response to reader’s who wanted a male counterpart to Ten Stupid Things Women Do to Mess Up Their Lives. She’s equal opportunity–sort of. It doesn’t take long for the reader to realize that Dr. Laura hates feminism and anyone who backs it. At times, it seems she blames all the ails on the world on feminism and while I generally think that feminism is a good thing, there are some points she makes that sorta, kinda make sense at times.

Aside from her anti-feminist beliefs, Dr. Laura has produced an interesting book in Ten Stupid Things. She split the book into 10 areas in a man’s life in which he might make a mistake, which includes but isn’t limited to: independence, strength, marriage, parenting, sex and boyishness. When reading, I noticed that her main complaints stemmed from men acting too manly or not manly enough. It’s definitely a running trend in this book.

Dr. Laura solicited advice for this book from her readers and listeners and she includes their “top 10” lists as well as emails through-out the book. There is a strong sense of doing what is right, taking responsibility for your actions and being an adult. I can stand by all those things even if Dr. Laura and I might not always agree on the details.

Dr. Laura’s approach is very straight forward, however. I can see how many people would be offended by this and if you’re trying to help the man in your life stop doing stupid things, it might be easier to take a more indirect route than handing him this book–or not.

Yet, if you’re an open-minded man you might find yourself nodding and agreeing as you read along or seeing the mistakes you’ve made along the way. You might take some of Dr. Laura’s advice to become a better man, if you’re so inclined. You might be shocked to learn that some of the things you’ve done are considered “stupid” by some. Maybe.

Dr. Laura doesn’t use this book as a forum to rage on men, however. You might be surprised to read her praise for the men who have finally “got it” or the men who learned from the mistakes of their fathers and other men in their lives. Yet, Ten Stupid Things Men Do to Mess Up Their Lives is not the best book I’ve ever read, even it was sometimes entertaining or enlightening. Luckily, you can find it pretty cheap at used book stores, if you’re interested. I got mine for less than $5.

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